The Need for Single Adult Ministries

In 2014, statistics stated that 50.2 percent of adult Americans are single. There are many reasons why that percentage is so high but one thing is certain, the single adult is not alone.

Single Adult Ministries is on the rise in every denomination in America. Why, you may ask?

1. It allows the church to fulfill its primary mission.

The church’s mission is to reach the lost and to disciple them after they reach them. If 50.2 percent of the adult population is single, then it leads me to estimate that the percentage of singles visiting our churches is around the same or higher (many people turn to God in times of distress). It is also common knowledge that in order to keep visitors coming back, we must connect with them. The strongest connections take place when a person comes in contact with someone who has common interests/issues.

2. It provides a ministry of healing in times of tragedy.

One of the most crucial times in a person’s spiritual life is when they are faced with tragic loss.   Even some of the most seasoned saints have walked away from God while going through or soon after a death/divorce. Having someone to talk to confidentially who has been through their grief can help them understand what they are feeling and can guide them through the process. Most of all, having someone share their testimony of God’s provision, comfort, care and never ending love, can make a difference in not only the single’s life, but also their families. Remember, a single parent at risk means their children are at risk.

3. It helps singles adults define or redefine their identity.

The adult who is single after years of marriage has to redefine who they are. Their identity was linked to their spouse. If they were involved in ministry with their spouse, they may have to give that ministry to another couple and find a place where they can be used effectively in another area. They are often learning how to live on a smaller income and may not be able to give financially like they have in the past. For those that were very generous givers, it is discouraging to no longer have that option.

4. It helps the church to retain young single adults.

The “never married single” that has aged out of the Youth group is at risk of leaving the church to find a mate. More often than not, the outcome in this situation is not desirable.

5. It provides single adults with companionship and a place to belong.

The single adult needs fellowship. We all want to feel like we belong and most everyone wants companionship (not necessarily a spouse). Have you ever been on vacation by yourself? Have you ever eaten dinner at a restaurant alone? Have you ever gone to a social event, even at church, where the attendees are all couples or families? This is not a choice or rare occurrence, but the common situation for singles.

So you see, contrary to popular belief, Singles Ministry is not about dating or finding a mate. It’s about having a place to belong, making lasting friendships, encouraging those who are facing similar struggles and finding a place of ministry in the Kingdom of God.

 

Related Articles:

Why Should I Start a Singles Ministry? (The Need for SAM and its Twofold Purpose)
What Is Singles Ministry?

Sandra Chambers

Sandra Chambers is a preacher's kid. Home missions is where she learned about ministry: how to love people, play music, sing, teach Sunday School, and make peanut brittle – lots and lots of peanut brittle. She re-entered single life after 26 years of marriage. A mother of three, she was a homeschooling, stay-at-home mom who found herself trusting God to provide like she never had before. He's been faithful!!! He opened the door for her to work at The Spirit of Freedom Ministries where their mission is to help the chemically dependent find freedom from the chains of addiction. She attends New Life of Metairie , LA, where she is the singles ministry leader and plays keyboard for the music ministry team. She was recently appointed Singles Ministry Leader for the Louisiana District where she hopes to bring awareness to and share the vision of singles ministry with pastors and churches across the great state of Louisiana.

11 Comments

    • Veronica Gonzalez
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      Yes. Us Singles need Godly support to be able to know we are not alone and that God is with us all the way. I have been divorced 9 years and in those years I have learned to lean on God 100 percent , no family, no friends just me and God and fighting my way raising 3 teens all alone. There is so much more that goes with what God has done in my life. Now I can say I am free in God, I am content, I now know who I am in god. As single adults that come out of marriages need so much direction. I Pray in Jesus name this ministry will open doors to healing and direction and bring single families together like brothers and sisters. God Bless.

      • Cheri Grissom
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        Thanks for stopping by and for sharing your story! We appreciate the support. :)

    • PAUL BRUNO
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      I attend Penecostals of Mandeville, I am interested in attending local singles events. If I can help in anyway, I am interested as well.

      • Cheri Grissom
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        Thanks for stopping by and for commenting! I will send you an email with some information about whom to contact in your district. :)

    • Sherry Fruge
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      I love & admire Sis. Sandra for her ministry
      My deceased sister, Sis. Linda Gibson, spoke very highly of her. She is talented in more ways than one. May God continue to bless her & her ministry

      • Cheri Grissom
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        Thanks for stopping by and for your encouragement! She is an amazing lady.

    • Tammy
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      HI, I am originally from Calif and now live in NY and I have had so many wonderful friends and family who have become single and I myself have been divorced now for over 20 years, was a single mom of four and now my kids are grown and i have grand kids… My thought was, if we could have a older singles fellowship meeting in a different location and it be hosted by a different church each month within our local districts that would be awesome. So lets say for instance, there were 12 participating churches that would be willing to host the meeting each month, each church would only have the meeting once per calender year.. if there were 24 churches within the district, then each church would only need to host a meeting every 2 years so the burden would not fall on one church within that local district and so no one would get burned out or have to spend tons of money to host a singles meeting every month.. I just feel that this would open up opportunities for fellowship for singles. not for the purpose of dating. the youth, they meet three or four times per year and then they have youth camp, if it were not for this, some of them would not have met their mates and I feel that though this would not be for the purpose of dating, it would open up rare opportunities for singles to meet someone if that was what God had in mind.. Its very difficult to know where we belong when there are so few events and very little ministries in churches across the globe. so, by meeting once a month and having church, we will be able to meet people that have gone though the same things, know how we feel and can relate, we can worship together, be fed spiritually, encouraged and make lasting friendships.. Many times, in our local churches, there are a handful of singles and there are no real events or ministries for just them. so by opening something up that can be done on a district level, would increase the numbers of singles that would be able to gather together more often and have something to look forward to. its Just a thought.. I hope this is something that can be of help. so, in short, we would have a singles fellowship meeting/service once a month in a different location within our local districts, where there would be a special speaker that would address the concerns, needs and challenges that older singles face and then, afterwards, we could have coffee and light refreshments..So, by.doing it this way, we not only give singles somewhere to go each month, but it also opens doors for us to invite our single friends who are not saved. it focuses on the spiritual needs and would give the singles a sense of belonging. Well thank you fro hearing my idea and I hope to get some feed back and maybe you guys can add to this idea as well. God bless

    • Tammy
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      ps…I wrote that last comment in the wee hours of the night, so I am sorry if it sounds like I’m going all over the place, repeating myself and my spelling is off ;) God bless

      • Cheri Grissom
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        No problem! :) Thanks for sharing your ideas and your story. It can definitely be difficult when you are in a part of the country (or world, for that matter) when there aren’t a lot of events. The exciting thing is that this ministry is growing quickly as people are starting to understand the vision and develop a burden. It’s great that you understand the purpose of the ministry already — that it is primarily a ministry. I love the idea of involving other churches in the area as well. We are working on developing SAM leadership around the country. It’s still a process so some areas are still developing. I can look into your area to see what is going on there but, if there isn’t an active ministry right now, you can always start reaching out to singles and making connections! Be sure to check out our SAM Startup Series. We’re going to be talking about these exact issues over time. Hopefully you will find some ideas to help you but also to help you explain the ministry to others (educating people on what this ministry actually is is generally the hardest part). Thanks for your comment! Please stop by again for more details on SAM in general but also on upcoming events. We have a national summit coming up in August that will be pretty awesome.

    • Tammy
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      I just found you guys and its nice that there are those who are making a difference in the lives of singles. I too was a single mom of four, divorced and alone, I originally came from Calif and moved East after my divorce,. God gave me a knew start and healed my pain. NOw I know who I am and trust God fully for everything.. My kids are all grown and I now have six grand kids. It was not an easy road but with God all things are possible. God bless you all for all you do and are doing, its very encouraging..

      • Cheri Grissom
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        Thanks for stopping by and for sharing your story! Please feel free to share with any single adults you know. :)

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